Healthy Self-Esteem: Appreciating Yourself Can Help You Reach Your Goals In Life
“You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.”– Diane Von Furstenberg
While nobody enjoys being around a narcissist, people with healthy levels of self-esteem are usually pleasurable company—for themselves as well as others. People who feel good about themselves often treat others better, which leads to being treated better in return. You might say it’s a victorious cycle! Far from arrogance, self-esteem is having an overall sense of satisfaction, respect and regard for oneself.
People with healthy levels are usually confident without needing to belittle others, aware of their strengths without needing to boast, and comfortable admitting their weaknesses. Developing or improving your self-esteem is one of the most powerful things you can do for your mental health and to help you live the life you desire and deserve. Those who struggle in this regard may find it helpful to engage in some self-esteem-building exercises, such as the one outlined here.
How Do You Love Yourself? Count The Ways.
As you fill out these lists, use a journal, your computer or any piece of paper to record your responses and revisit them regularly. Make a list of at least:
5 of your strengths (ex. persistence, courage, friendliness, creativity)
5 things you admire about yourself (ex. your parenting skills, your relationship with family members, your spirituality)
5 significant achievements in your life (ex. graduating from high school, recovering from a serious illness, learning to use a computer)
10 ways you can treat or reward yourself that don’t cost anything (nature walks, window-shopping, chatting with a friend)
10 things that make you laugh
10 ways to help someone else
10 things that make you feel good about yourself