How to Approach More Social Obligations Despite Social Anxiety this Spring

Spring has finally sprung, and most people are ready for warmer weather, longer days, and more socialization. Don’t be surprised to see more local events popping up in your area or friends and family members wanting to get together more often. After two years of going through a global pandemic and a long winter for some, this spring especially feels like a time of reconnection.

While that sounds great, it can also feel overwhelming if you have social anxiety. Don’t feel guilty if you’re experiencing any dread about social obligations this spring. Social anxiety doesn’t mean you don’t love or care for your friends and family. However, it’s important to know how to approach more social obligations this spring so you don’t overwhelm yourself or let your worries take over.

Set Boundaries

The best thing you can do for yourself this season is to set healthy boundaries. First, decide what those boundaries will look like for yourself. It might mean saying “no” to certain events or get-togethers. It might mean having to leave things early. Or, you might not want to talk to many people.

Once you understand your boundaries, express them to others. There’s a common misconception that boundaries are somehow rude or cold, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. When you talk to family members or friends about your boundaries and explain why you’re putting them in place, most of them will understand and be happy to accommodate. It isn’t selfish or disrespectful to prioritize your mental health.

Start Small

Your first social obligation of the season probably shouldn’t be a big block party with all of your friends. Instead, start with something small. Go to a family cookout or out to dinner with a couple of friends. If you haven’t been to a social event in a while, starting small will allow you to test the waters and see how you feel. You can also use smaller events as learning experiences to prepare you for bigger social settings. You’ll be more in tune with things that trigger you and better understand your limits.

Have an Exit Strategy in Place

When dealing with social anxiety, a good rule of thumb is to plan ahead. When you know you have social obligations coming up, decide on a strategy to help you feel more comfortable.

That might include figuring out how long you’ll stay, who you want to talk to, and most importantly, an exit strategy if things become too overwhelming. If you’re attending the event with someone, talk to them about your strategy and make sure they’re on board. They can make things easier for you if you start to feel anxious.

It’s Okay to Say No

We have already touched on the importance of setting boundaries. However, it’s worth repeating that you don’t need to attend every social event this spring. You know your limits better than anyone, and the people in your life will respect that.

Saying no or not accepting every invitation shouldn’t cause you to feel guilty. By focusing on your mental health and well-being, you’ll have a better chance of overcoming social anxiety or learning how to manage it more effectively.

With warmer days ahead, you might already be feeling anxious about the social obligations to come. You don’t have to be fearful or anxious in social situations forever. By getting to the root cause of your anxiety, we can work through your triggers and establish healthy strategies to help you retake control of your life. If you’re ready to start working on managing your social anxiety symptoms, feel free to contact us.